Warning: If you are not ready to start feeling like you are on an ecstasy-like mode of self-confidence, come back another time.
Okay, so step one on feeling this incredible high is to forget all bullshit. "Bullshit" refers to anything and everything. Your friends, family, professors, classes, assignments, text messages, social media, work schedules, etc. It seems like a lot, and it is, but just try extremely hard to forget all of it.
(Dude, if you cannot forget 100% of everything above, it's understood, sometimes it is so hard to put oneself ahead of everyone else. Especially, for me, I tend to cater to others before even thinking one bit of myself- just try to take this drug of pure conceited ecstasy.)
Step two: Accept the negatives.
When I take pictures of myself or of anything, I tend to look at all of them and examine all of them, ultimately, the ones that are not up to par with what I would like to see, I simply accept them and my finger glides over the trash can and I delete them without even realizing I have deleted them.
As parallel to that, my thoughts act the same way. My "flaws, bad pictures, negatives" are so easily looked at, examined, observed, and then accepted and deleted. Now, this does not mean I am erasing my flaws, they just do not remain flaws to me any longer.
I begin thinking, "so what?" Like I have wide hips, "and?" I am controlling, "so?" I am heartless "your point is?" Like tell me something I DO NOT know sweetheart, because every negative comment anyone has to say about me is not by any means "new" or a "surprise."
Life is like after watching Wizard of Oz and for the rest of one's life, it is known and acknowledged that the damn wizard is behind the curtain the entire time.
Sorry, accept that YOU are behind the curtain of your flaws, not anyone else, but YOURSELF.
Now for something more on the "brighter side", step three:
Fall in love... With yourself.
I find it funny, hearing from women seeking a partner say things like "I just want to fall in love with the perfect guy!" Hahaha I'm sorry to say, but how could you ever WANT to fall in love with a guy who you will expect, to love you equally when you do not love you fully?!?! That makes no sense at all. What you all NEED (guy or girl) is to boost yourself up. Start loving YOU. Go into dressing rooms, try stuff on, find something that YOU think looks hot, DO NOT TAKE A PICTURE AND PUT IT ON SOCIAL MEDIA (we are all guilty of this) for the favorites, likes, and comments. Stare at it, stare at YOU. Like god damn, sexy, you are killing it!
Look, I am not trying to be a party pooper or anything but if you do not love you, nobody will, mark my word.
Love is just like ecstasy, the more you give to yourself, the better you will feel.
(Just make sure you do not give yourself actual ecstasy, that will just make you feel like a mess.)
Use your mind, upgrade to a better, newer version of you, make things right with yourself. Be humble, stay true to your soul.
A new post will be up next week- it will be a "keys to happiness" post.
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